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Reading Time: 3 minutes Women often fall into the trap of withholding sex because they aren’t getting enough romance. They want to feel that intimate connection before they put out. However, that backfires. The act of sex increases the very neurochemical that creates the intimacy they crave.
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Reading Time: < 1 minute From our fear of women’s bodies to our sheepishness around the word “nipple,” our ideas about sex need an upgrade, say sex educators (and hilarious women) Tiffany Kagure Mugo and Siphumeze Khundayi. For a radical new take on sex positivity, the duo take the TED stage to suggest we look to Africa for erotic wisdom both ancient and modern, showing us how we can shake off problematic ideas about sex we’ve internalized and re-define pleasure on our own terms. (This talk contains mature content.)
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Reading Time: 2 minutes n our last piece, I touched on pansexuality in a very introductory way. Now let’s discuss different types of gender identity – because gender is a key concept that also informs and impacts how people experience their sexuality and attractions to other people.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes The dialog needs to change. Girls need to be taught self-respect and self-love early, and so do boys. Girls need to understand sex isn’t something you give away, it’s something you share and experience. There is a lot of talk right now about teaching boys about consent and boundaries, and that’s way past due. However, there needs to be a conversation about teaching girls that sex isn’t a prize to give away in exchange for something, like love and that love comes from inside first and when it does you don’t feel so desperate to get it somewhere else.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes More people who had previously self-labeled as bisexual are now updating that description to pansexual, after they realized that people don’t often fall into these rigid categories of gender-identity expression. Gender is influenced by chromosomes, organs, hormones, and socialization. Transgender people and those that we refer to as “gender nonconforming” are just that; real people who categorically tend to get left out of our conversations about sex and culture when we only talk in typical terms “man” and “woman”. Try to not get hung up on the words, it just means that your daughter likes people for who they are.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes At a time when our reproductive freedoms are facing constant attacks, as our Obama-era workplace protections are being overturned, as queerness and transphobia becomes more visible and attacked by this administration and it’s supporters, consensual sexual expression should be celebrated and supported in any way possible. Come for the gathering of like-minded people of all ages, sizes, shapes, and abilities – some people bring their kids, and some folks bring their grandparents. Join us for resources and literature that can help us stay connected to advocacy groups that are sex-positive and radically progressive.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes Determine what “wild night” means to you and him: Do you want to watch on your first visit and maybe play with other people engaging with others on a later visit? What is he interested in? Does he want to dance with other people, flirt with other people? I first went with a particular boyfriend and we discovered quickly that I was comfortable and he was not.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes It has been called “silver sex”, and it’s the term that refers to the sex lives of aging Americans. About 20% of our population will be older than 65 by 2030, so let’s talk about sexuality as we age. If you’ve determined that there are no other new factors like medication, diet, stress, or injury that could be impacting you for the last two years, it’s probably your hormones. My momma started menopause in her late thirties, I recall her hot flashes, mood swings that made her feel “crazy”, and all that stuff she never told me about that I can’t wait to discover on my own.
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Reading Time: 4 minutes Welcome to a starter’s guide to common sex toys, and a brief introduction of a few lesser known ones. Dildo and vibrator and buttplug are more than just fun words to say!
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Reading Time: 3 minutes There are many different models for polyamory, or “loving many” people. I’ve participated in a couple separate models of polyamory, or as I actually prefer to call it, non-monogamy. I don’t need to “love” or be in close relationship with the people that I socialize with sexually as a non-monogamous person.“Polyamory” makes me think that you do indeed what to build a life with more than one partner, and people do this quite successfully, but it’s not for everyone.
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