relationships – Page 5 – Confluence Daily

April 20, 2018 Confluence

What You Need to Know When a Man Asks for Space

Reading Time: 2 minutes As hard as it, the rule of thumb here is when a man asks for space, give him all the space in the world. In other words, end it on the spot. It might feel counterintuitive. It might feel like the request for space indicates trouble that you need to fix. However, your best chance of fixing anything is making certain that he gets his question answered, “What would my life be without her?” He needs to know what he’d be missing, by actually missing it.

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April 17, 2018 Confluence

Why Unification Is The Death Of A Marriage

Reading Time: 2 minutes Personally, I do not want to become half of some amalgamated union. I want to feel desire and devotion for my beloved. Not obligation and or responsibility. That said, I cannot desire him, if I honestly see him as an extension of myself. A relationship is bigger when two people bring their whole selves to it and breath fresh air through, when the space they take up forces the relationship to expand. Relationships do not feed themselves.

People need their own time, hobbies, friends, and money. They need to flourish and grow alone so the relationship itself doesn’t stagnate. I believe one of the most accurate measurements of a healthy relationship is how much two people encourage each other to grow individually. Yes, that takes courage, but the pay off personally is huge, so it’s both altruistic and selfish at the same time.

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April 13, 2018 Confluence

Help Me, FIX my PARTNER ….Cause, I’ve Got My Shit Together

Reading Time: 4 minutes I have learned all too well, the anguish, hurt, disgust, and unspoken, gut-wrenching tension this mindset brings to a relationship. It hurts, and it creates walls of division and fear in our relationships.

Everyone must run their own race in life, and it’s not your place to own your partner’s race. This removes the beauty of growth and love for them and leaves you emotionally drained and tired.

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April 11, 2018 Confluence

You are Never Powerless

Reading Time: 2 minutes When you are being a hurt by another person the only person who can make that stop is you. You always have the power. You are never powerless to stop your own suffering. You can always change your thoughts or change your situation.

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April 9, 2018 Confluence

A Simple Hack for More Relationship Intimacy that Requires Zero Extra Time

Reading Time: 3 minutes Asking a better question doesn’t take any more time than asking a low-quality question. There’s no excuse not to up your game.
Curiosity is sexy.
It’s also really hard to fake.

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March 29, 2018 Confluence

Will He Ever Leave His Wife?

Reading Time: 4 minutes So, if you find yourself asking the question, “will this man ever leave his wife?” I would suggest you up your standards and think about what kind of man you really want to be with. What kind of life do you really want to live? Are you willing to live with the uncertainty about whether or not it will happen to you when the going gets tough, and it will, because life happens, and when life happens you will wonder. Trust me. You will.

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March 28, 2018 Confluence

The Worlds Best Couple That Almost Never Happened

Reading Time: 4 minutes It might sound counter-intuitive for a relationship coach to say, but in the beginning stages of dating and relationships chances are high, you’re way better off to quit early and often. You’re way more likely to find the perfect partner if you’re willing to play catch and release until you find someone who can give you exactly what you’re looking for rather than hoping you will stay in it long enough to make someone change to fit your needs.