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Reading Time: 7 minutes Whom do you render invisible?
How are you getting your education about people who do not look like you or who you view as part of a blurred whole?
Do you expect marginalized people to educate you about themselves, their communities and their lives?
Do you sense the power differential in that demand?
Reading Time: 2 minutes Personally, I do not want to become half of some amalgamated union. I want to feel desire and devotion for my beloved. Not obligation and or responsibility. That said, I cannot desire him, if I honestly see him as an extension of myself. A relationship is bigger when two people bring their whole selves to it and breath fresh air through, when the space they take up forces the relationship to expand. Relationships do not feed themselves.
People need their own time, hobbies, friends, and money. They need to flourish and grow alone so the relationship itself doesn’t stagnate. I believe one of the most accurate measurements of a healthy relationship is how much two people encourage each other to grow individually. Yes, that takes courage, but the pay off personally is huge, so it’s both altruistic and selfish at the same time.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know. Why we should stop treating Silicon Valley’s male
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Reading Time: 7 minutes There are a few small changes in our language that have the potential to make a huge shift in how we show up in the world, to others and to ourselves. Here are five very powerful little language tweaks you can begin practicing today.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes Sex therapists tell me that the most common population of people who have trouble with arousal or orgasm are working women with children. Kids, labor and relationships require energy, which new parents don’t always have. Also, the constant diapering and crying of a new baby can drive a serious wedge into a person’s ability to fantasize about sex or to relax enough to enjoy it.
I believe that you will orgasm again, but that will happen after you’ve stopped trying so hard to get there, and focusing on the goal rather than the journey will add to your self-imposed pressure.
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Reading Time: 5 minutes Let’s face it, we all get banged up from time to time. If it’s not a cabinet falling on you, it’s twisting your ankle and falling in the street, like I did today. With these two episodes happening within days of each other I have Arnica on my brain. And, boy was I glad it was in my medicine chest too!
A few weeks ago I posted an article here about 5 natural remedies to reduce inflammation and pain. One of them was Arnica, and this remedy definitely deserves a full article to itself.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes GoogleDrive and Skype are now monitoring people’s data and conversations for signs of “obscenity”. This is what happens when you make laws that do not distinguish between sex work + sex trafficking. (Senator Ron Wyden understood that #FOSTA would push marginalized workers more underground by making their method of labor illegal, and voted against it. Thank you.)
The DOJ even stated that trafficking victims will not be impacted by its passing. Because when you direct resources and attention away from those who need it most, that population goes unserved.
Stop criminalizing the consensual activities of adults. Sex trafficking should be illegal, but I am not a person who does not give consent to my work. Who are you really hurting when you pass laws like these?
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Reading Time: 2 minutes Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know. The 70 must-see lines in James Comey’s ABC
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Reading Time: < 1 minute White evangelicals are scared, and their support for Trump will not diminish until we address the root cause of their fears.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes In early Christian lore, the “mysterious” rose was so cherished (despite its sensual past) that it came to be dedicated to the Virgin Mary; red roses symbolized her suffering, white roses her joy. Did Diana intuitively know this? According to the former head gardener at Kensington Palace, the princess always favored white flowers over red ones. Unfulfilled in her own search for love, yet Diana found joy in the love of her sons and encouraged them to be true to their heart’s desire. As though she was leaving them with an inner directive to move thoughtfully through the ‘suffering’, then live gratefully inside the ‘joy’.
The memory of love, indeed—with the lingering scent of roses. ~
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