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JOHN PAVLOVITZ: WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE JOINS A CULT

Reading Time: 3 minutes No one willingly joins a cult. They are lured and tricked and coerced all the up to the precipice of emotional and intellectual surrender—and then they fall in. Once there, it is nearly impossible for them to leave voluntarily. They can’t see that they are fighting against their own self-interest, by aligning with the one holding them hostage.

Leaving isn’t an option, and so someone who loves them persistently and fiercely, needs to brave the wounding words and the violent opposition, to try and rescue them.

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Evolve

SLACKING OFF MAKES YOU MORE CREATIVE. HERE’S WHY

Reading Time: 5 minutes In my work as a leadership consultant and coach to executives, I repeatedly come across individuals (and groups) who are impatient with the process of problem-solving. In their states of tunnel-vision and desire for quick results, they actually undermine their ability to reach the best possible solutions. The forgotten byproduct of hyper-focus is the fact that, when we are setting our sights on a singular thing, we can’t see anything outside of our frame of vision.

The good news is that there are ways we can proactively help our brains be creative by giving them a little siesta from time to time. These three modes of “slacking off” can counterintuitively help you cultivate more creativity—on and off the job.

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Anti-Bullying Programs Aren’t Working and This is Why

Reading Time: 2 minutes Words mean what we make them mean. Words mean different things to different people. We get to decide what words mean to us. Someone may attempt to insult us, but WE get to decide whether those words will or will not insult us.

This is true power. This is what kids want to learn. We all seem to be in agreement that kids deserve to feel protected. But they don’t want to feel like they need someone to do the job for them. Kids want to know how to protect themselves.

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Informed

Jussie Smollett is a Headline, but His Story Plays Out Over and Over Again Every day

Reading Time: 4 minutes Maybe the troglodytes who beat up Smollett believe the idea implicit in the MAGA slogan—that there was a time when all was well with the world, or at least, close to it. When, to quote “Those Were The Days,” the theme song from All in the Family, “girls were girls and men were men.” If so, Smollett is definitely anathema: an articulate, openly gay man of mixed Jewish and African-American heritage. Once and for all, guys, the genie is out of the bottle (and I do mean, out). It’s too late to turn back the clock. The Supreme Court just upheld the ban on transgender people serving in the military, however, my daughter’s generation is more comfortable with gender-fluidity than mine.

They are the future.

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