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MY LIFE IS A MESS AND I’M OK WITH THAT

Reading Time: 3 minutes I’m learning to celebrate the small victories.  My son ate a bowl of homemade soup BEFORE he ate mac and cheese.  My husband and I managed to get through a whole weekend at home without having adult meltdowns.  I started walking my son into school again, because, well I felt guilty and sometimes it’s just easier.  We move forward and we regress. That’s real life I think. That’s normal human growth. My life is a mess and I’m gonna be ok with that.

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My Boyfriend Wants to try Rape Fantasy Play – I’m a Sexual Assault Survivor

Reading Time: 3 minutes Rape roleplay isn’t inherently bad or good, but I’m curious about your partner’s interest in it, and his role in it.

When children play games it’s not unusual for them to sometimes choose the “villain” role, because role play is a safe(r) way to experience something new, but it’s disconcerting and suggests a power imbalance if he pressures you to proceed with this, especially if he knows that you’ve been hurt by a rapist in real life.

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Vox: Democrats are prioritizing “electability” in 2020. That’s a coded term.

Reading Time: 4 minutes More often than not, however, the expectation of who can win is inextricably wrapped up in the knowledge of who has won. What that feeling looks like for each voter could well be influenced by the kinds of candidates voters have seen win races before. And in the case of the presidency, that mold consists overwhelmingly of older white men, a precedent that could hurt candidates who don’t fit those characteristics.

“Metrics like authenticity and likability and electability are just code that we use against candidates who are not like what we are used to,” Christina Reynolds, a spokesperson for Emily’s List, a political organization that supports women candidates, previously told Vox.

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The Shifting Truth of Boundary Blowout

Reading Time: 8 minutes He cheats, or he shoves you to the floor in a fight and you didn’t see it coming. You freeze in place, like a deer in the headlights. Then one of two things is going to happen. Either you’re going to flee or you aren’t, but if you don’t flee, chances are you will experience “boundary blowout”. Then, because you have to, you will start lying to yourself and everyone else. You won’t see it exactly that way, but that’s exactly what it is.

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Brie Larson: An Interview Worth Watching with the Super Hero We Deserve

Reading Time: < 1 minute Brie Larson has a strong, simple message about equal pay: “Ask for what you deserve.”

On Wednesday night, the Captain Marvel star and best-actress Oscar winner sat for an interview with Vanity Fair editor in chief Radhika Jones at the Women in the World summit in New York, where she spoke frankly about the wage gap.

“Money is actually something I’m very excited to talk about,” Larson began. “It’s this thing that people think is super-icky—and that’s the trap. The trap is they make you feel icky about it, so that you don’t ask for what you deserve—because you know what that number is inside.”

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