advice

Reading Time: 3 minutes If all you have to talk about is dry cleaning and bills you should make it a priority to be doing or learning something interesting to bring to the table. The first step to fixing anything always starts with you. In this case, the fixing is fun. Basically, you probably need to be having more fun so you have some of that kind of energy to inject into your relationship.

Waiting for your relationship to relieve your boredom will never work. You have to be the spark that starts the fire.

Relate

July 3, 2018 Confluence

Why You Have To Be The Person You Want To Attract

Reading Time: 2 minutes The question to ask yourself is this, “Am I the kind of person who my dream man or woman would fall in love with, for real?”

Trust me on this, no matter where you’re at, you can and might attract someone into your life. Everyone wants to be loved by someone. However, if you aren’t the person the future love of your life would fall for, right now, should you really be dating until you are?

Probably not.

Evolve

June 29, 2018 Confluence

4 Tips for Tiny Changes that Create Big Shifts When Everything Seems to Suck

Reading Time: 5 minutes When we’re in the dumps the big changes are very seductive. It can be easy to think it’s time for massive shifts and big upgrades.

However, that’s not the way the system really works. Big changes are hard to make and they are even harder to sustain. Big changes often don’t include the kind of incremental upgrades that really create a life transformed. Big changes look really bright and shiny, but they often set us up to fail. So while I’ve been that girl that wanted to wake up tomorrow all different than I am today, I’ve learned from experience, that baby stepping it up to feeling better is a much more effective way to go.

Relate

June 19, 2018 Confluence

Manipulation Is Not What You Think It Is

Reading Time: 3 minutes When you grasp the concept of manipulation for what it is, a human reflex instead of an act of force you can relax around it rather than fight against it. You don’t have to put up walls. You can put on music and dance. No villains. No victims. Just souls playing together trying to be happy.

Relate

April 26, 2018 Confluence

Love Doesn’t Take Sh*t and It Won’t Ask You to Either

Reading Time: 3 minutes There is a difference between taking the high road for principle and hiding behind doing the “loving” thing. The difference can be measured in resentment. If taking the high road leaves cleaner clearer energy behind then it might be the right course of action. However, if doing the loving thing leaves resentment in its wake – it’s not love. That is bypassing.

Relate

April 9, 2018 Confluence

A Simple Hack for More Relationship Intimacy that Requires Zero Extra Time

Reading Time: 3 minutes Asking a better question doesn’t take any more time than asking a low-quality question. There’s no excuse not to up your game.
Curiosity is sexy.
It’s also really hard to fake.

Relate

March 19, 2018 Confluence

The Number One Reason You Need to Set Boundaries

Relate

March 17, 2018 Confluence

10 Tips For Spotting A Balanced Mature Man

Reading Time: 5 minutes I talk to a lot of women who are relatively convinced that either all men are dogs or all the good ones are gone. I can tell you with complete certainty that’s just not true. I see great men pretty much everywhere I look. I have a bunch of really incredible men on my caseload who are single and looking.

In all fairness though, there are a lot of man-children out there on the dating market, and they get around. They give the species a bad name. These men are unbalanced, immature and self-absorbed. However, let’s face it, there are also unstable, immature and self-absorbed women playing the game also.