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December 28, 2018 Confluence

Astrology: Full Speed Ahead in 2019, (or is it?)

Reading Time: 4 minutes In these last few days of 2018, with Mars into Aries due to happen right on the turning point of the year, why not make the most of these two significant supporters for your future plans?

Let Jupiter’s energy fuel big daydreaming; listen to inner guidance for ideas about the path ahead.

Trust in the big dream.

Then let Saturn’s energy help move you plan out how to move forward one step at a time.

Keep their roles clear and separate.

Astro Evolve Weekly

December 19, 2018 Confluence

Astrology: Getting the urge to make shit real? Good!

Reading Time: 4 minutes Think of this week as the point in the sea-goat journey that moves from sea to land. Concepts solidify into ideas and plans that you can begin to articulate clearly. You may not know every single detail just yet, but as you allow some things to come into focus, others are not far behind.

You’re at base camp on the beach, preparing for the mountain climb – and we know not to rush that preparation if we want the next bit to go well.

With those elements of ‘anything is possible’ and ‘doing it MY way!’ at play, you can let them inspire the choices you make while you’re there on the beach, doing your prep for the mountain climb.

Astro Evolve Weekly

November 28, 2018 Confluence

Astrology: Leave me Alone, I’m Lonely, the Venus-Uranus dilemma – or is it?

Reading Time: 4 minutes On 30 November, two of my favourite planets take up positions across the sky from each other, with Venus at 29 degrees of Libra (her own sign – more on that in a moment) and Uranus at 29 degrees of Aries (ruled by Mars, the lover of Venus). This is their third opposition transit since early September, as they’ve danced an astrological tango through the sky, thanks to their respective retrogrades.

When planets sit across the chart from each other in a 180-degree relationship, it’s a bit like two of King Arthur’s knights sitting across the roundtable from each other. They don’t share the same point of view at all, so they each bring their own vantage point for whatever’s going on in life. But they can see each other incredibly clearly, so it’s like an opportunity for each to offer insights on the other’s area of expertise.

That makes for some potential tension, but when you know how to use it, the tension can be a potent fuel for expansion and exploration.

Relate Weekly

October 15, 2018 Confluence

My Boyfriend Cheated On Me and I’m More Curious than Angry

Reading Time: 4 minutes If a long-term relationship and marriage is a goal of yours, I suggest you invest in the quality of raw, sometimes uncomfortable discussion about your desires: do you like flirting with your barista? Do you and he want to send sexy pics to other consenting people or couples? Does he and you have freedom to look at sexually charged material on your own time, without having to report back to the other? My boyfriend and I feel comfortable bringing up our monogamish leanings; it helps us keep realistic about our very real desires, even if we don’t wish to act on them.

“Forever” is a lot longer than most people realize, especially when the new-relationship excitement is so strong; it seems like it will never fade. It’s time to reframe how we talk about our desires – and remember that being married by thirty could mean fifty years of time with your companion of choice.

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September 24, 2018 Confluence

I think my husband has a porn addiction. He thinks I’m crazy.

Reading Time: 2 minutes Any time spent doing one activity that diverts focus and time away from loved ones can be to the detriment of the relationships with those loved ones. Be it a video game addiction or porn watching. The fact that you’re feeling left in the dust is the problem, and when you talk to him about those feelings of your own inadequacy I’d like you to frame it around that, and not the porn itself. It’s great that he’s not lying about watching porn in the first place, but I understand why you might miss him. (Unless what he’s watching is leading to harmful behaviors, but that doesn’t sound like the case.)

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September 17, 2018 Confluence

My Partner Wants Me To Be More Vocal In Bed. As a Woman Who Usually Talks A Lot I’m Surprised this Makes me Uncomfortable.

Reading Time: 2 minutes It doesn’t sound silly at all – even experienced sex workers sometimes feel awkward when vocalizing sexy-speak that’s been requested from men. Partner sex shouldn’t always feel awkward, but new things or kinky requests can be stomach-turning if you aren’t sure how to address them. It’s up to you to determine if you’d like to dabble in dirty talk for your partner’s pleasure, because it’s healthy to make efforts for your partner, as long as it doesn’t cause you serious discomfort. I appreciate him asking for what he likes, now it’s your opportunity to be advantageous

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September 4, 2018 Confluence

How Do We Talk to Our Teen Daughter About Sex Without Condoning Her Being Sexually Active?

Reading Time: 3 minutes Most kids aren’t ready for the responsibilities that come with having risk-aware partner contact, and many adults never become responsible at all: but it’s never to late or early to learn some good ideas around sexuality.

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August 29, 2018 Confluence

I’d Like to Explore Erotica and Female Friendly Porn but I Don’t Know Where to Start

Reading Time: 2 minutes Most porn (and media in general) is produced by men and with straight men’s consumption in mind, so it’s not surprising that so much of the stuff you’ll see on Pornhub doesn’t strike you as sensual or with women’s pleasure as a focus.

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August 20, 2018 Confluence

Our Pre-teen Daughter Stumbled Upon Our Porn

Reading Time: 2 minutes Tell your child that men and women have sex in the ways that they decide feels good to them, for some people that might mean with their penises, mouths, hands, feet, stomach rolls, armpits : there is no “proper” way to have sex. Secondly, as a kid who was (kind of) caught digging through their parents’ porn, I Do suggest buying her a kid-friendly book such as Sex Is a Funny Word and ask her if she knows what pornography is. Tell your child that porn is something that humans have made for thousands of years, and that one study suggests up to 85% of women in America report having watched it at some point in their lives.

Relate Weekly

August 14, 2018 Confluence

Am I Doing Orgasms Wrong?

Reading Time: 2 minutes Plenty of articles will tell you that women (and all people) experience orgasm differently; some people cry after or feel conflicted during – sensations of sexual pleasure can bring up feelings around shame or trauma relating to sexuality. Ask yourself if you have any negative experiences in your personal sexual history that might be making you feel odd about experiencing orgasm or genital pleasure.