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Reading Time: 4 minutes Generally speaking, the answer to the question is, you are being abused if you are afraid of your partner, physically, emotionally or in any other way. If you live in the state of trying to avoid conflict because you’d do anything to avoid the next confrontation, you are probably afraid.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes When you are involved with someone who’s been some sort of presence in your life and that person simply disappears, that is ghosting.
Maybe you had a couple of dates and texted frequently, and then it just stops without explanation. Maybe you were in a relationship that seemed to be on track for something more, and your partner quits returning calls or showing up without actually breaking up with you. They just disappear. It’s the kind of disappearing act that initially makes you think they may be unconscious in a hospital somewhere.
Today I heard a new phrase. Zombie. When your partner goes zombie, that means they haven’t cut off communication entirely. However, they aren’t showing up to be in the relationship at all. They might answer a text if you’re asking a question. However, they don’t initiate contact and have obviously disappeared in all other ways. This kind of disconnect makes you wonder if you’ve been dumped but leaves you hanging on thinking something else must be going on.
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Reading Time: 10 minutes Sexual violence is a global social phenomena wrapped up in misogyny, hypersexualisation of society and children, economic factors, power struggles, porn culture, rape myths, weak laws and… individual motivations.
The uncomfortable truth is that our education cannot undo the damage our society has already done – and we cannot use education of individuals to change the way our entire society of millions of people have absorbed messages from porn, advertisement, patriarchy and the media.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes Let’s talk about transgression – what’s behind it, why do we do it, and how do we make sense of it within committed relationships. And because you can’t really talk about transgression without mentioning monogamy and attraction for others, we’re talking about that, too. Oh, and a disclaimer before you hear this episode: the vibe we’re putting off in this episode did not happen overnight. It took years for us to be this open, honest, and playful with each other, and we wouldn’t have it any other way.
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Reading Time: < 1 minute Shannon Decker is Executive Director of The Speedy Foundation. The foundation was formed after Jeret “Speedy” Peterson died by suicide in July of 2011. Jeret was an American World Cup aerial skier and silver medalist at the 2010 Winter Olympics in Vancouver. The Speedy Foundation’s mission is to prevent suicide, promote conversations to end stigma, and support mental health education. Shannon talks about the warning signs of suicide and what to do if someone you love is having thoughts of self-harm. She discusses some of her interactions with teens affected by suicide, hopeful programs that she is seeing across the country and her work as a Mental Health First Aid Trainer.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes At the end of our relationship, I will blame you for not making me happy. I will resent everything you do to try to make me happy. If you leave me alone I’ll resent that too. I will tell you, you’re not good enough until you believe it. I will hate myself for what I’ve become, bone dry and bitter. I don’t know how long it will take to get to the end. Maybe it will be weeks. Maybe it will be years. Maybe we will get stuck there forever, but if we do, at least we won’t be alone and I’ll have plenty of shoes.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes How do you find peace with your mother memories, with your relationship with your children, with yourself?
I believe the answer lies in mother forgiveness.
Forgive your mother.
Forgive yourself.
Forgive every transgression, real or perceived. Forgive every lie, forgive every mistake, forgive every mean word, forgive every eye roll.
Simply forgive.
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Reading Time: 5 minutes By: Lisa M. Hayes – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know. DOING THE SAME THINGS AND EXPECTING
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Reading Time: 4 minutes Really bold courageous people know that there is very little risk in failing because they’ve got a lot of experience with it. When they take on something new, they do it knowing that “failing” is an option but that potential failure isn’t really a cause for concern. It’s not a preferred outcome, but if they fail, it’s a temporary event, not a defining moment.
Luck tends to favor the bold and nothing makes us more risk-tolerant than a string of failures.
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Reading Time: 5 minutes So, how does a couple break a cycle of fighting when conflict becomes the norm and communication starts to fail routinely? I get asked that question a lot because it’s a smart question and the answer is pretty simple.
Deal with what’s in front of you right now. Although that might sound simple or obvious, in real life, it’s not.
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