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Reading Time: 5 minutes As a longtime public, stripper, I often receive contact from other women in the adult industries who are navigating dating and sex work and experiencing jealousy from their partners. What follows is two examples of folks who recently wrote to me and feeling unsupported and invalidated by their boyfriends.
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Reading Time: 4 minutes Marriage doesn’t have to be be the place where desire goes to die.
Married women, withholding and controlling sex is hurting you, not just him.
It’s denying yourself of his medicine.
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Reading Time: < 1 minute THAT COUPLE WHO NEVER LEFT YOUR HOMETOWN. Meet Brad and Ashlee, that couple who never left. Fire off in the comments if you know these folks.
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Reading Time: 4 minutes A key to understanding the intersection of sex and disability is understanding disability theory. Disability theory is complex and nuanced, but essentially: all disabled people are different, our needs are different, our needs deserve to be met, and that we are not a burden. The onus for unlearning ableism, such as unfavorable conceptions, or treatment of disabled people is on abled people.”
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Reading Time: 4 minutes DROP THE EXCUSES. YOU’LL BE GLAD YOU DID.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes Being around other people can stimulate cortisol production for several reasons. It could be due to stress or worry about being judged (what if I make a funny face?), if you’re an introvert, or if you have traumatic memories that are associated with man partners or sexual play.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes “It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
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Reading Time: 3 minutes When we feel like we need to compete for our place, say in our career or with relationships or any of the things we think we need to make us happy, we can get single-minded. We can push and compare and tear ourselves and others apart over and over until we have nothing left but fear and isolation. Because even if you do get to the top or are considered “the best,” nothing really changes. Your mind just looks for the next thing it thinks it needs to find security.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes This is much easier to write about than to practice – I fully admit that. I’ve lost whole days to being absorbed by whether or not I possibly offended someone. Yet, I am a very bland incarnation of myself when I care so much, so I will choose to push on and maybe I can drop a fuck or two every day until this whole thing becomes a little less painful, a little less excruciating, and maybe in the best way, a little less safe.
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Reading Time: < 1 minute Padma Lakshmi is sharing why she didn’t report her rape and telling her story 33 years later.
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