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Reading Time: 3 minutes A bully can’t bully if he doesn’t have someone to push around. It’s a matter of supply and demand.
As smart phones hit the market, the demand for flip phones dramatically dwindled. The same decline can happen with bullying.
There’s so much bullying in our faces because we’re making the bully dance be all about the bullies… when that is not the case.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes REGRETS ARE THE WORST, SO YOU WANT TO KNOW FOR SURE.
One of the questions I’m asked most often is, “How do I know if I should file for divorce?” There is no one right answer to that. However, if you’re asking the question chances are your marriage may already be terminal. There are generally four litmus tests that demonstrate the viability of a marriage. If you’re facing one of the most difficult decisions you might ever make, ask yourself these three questions.
Reading Time: 2 minutes Skin and tissue can be very stretchy, and many birthing parents like myself will assure you that your insides can and often do return to their prepartum state, or very close to it. Regardless of whether you’ve given birth, your pelvic floor muscles and vagina would be very grateful for any kind of gentle exercise you can regularly maintain.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes As we know, reality can change. What we believe today is what influences our future reality and what we encourage kids to believe today will influence their future reality.
Reminding ourselves every day what we want to believe about kids and then looking for reasons to believe it is the best way I know of to maintain focus when the chatter around us gets loud.
Look at it this way… even if the adults don’t agree, it’s really the kids whose buy-in matters most anyway.
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Reading Time: 5 minutes To face your humanity means to come in contact with your own frailty and failure. It means to accept that you are broken and that you have tender places. It means to accept that you do not have all the answers. And you do not have to.
You see, precious reader, violence always begets violence. I think, as a community, we are also responsible for putting men on this pedestal that they are supposed to live up to. And they can’t. They are just human. It is violent to ask a person to be more than human.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes Nothing could be as sincere and sentimentally dear as Meghan Markle’s small, almost childlike arrangement bound in a raw silk ribbon. The morning before their wedding, Prince Harry picked a handful of white flowers from the couple’s private garden at Kensington Palace for the florist to use in his bride’s bouquet—including scented sweet peas, jasmine and forget-me-nots; other petite blossoms were astilbe, lily of the valley and astrantia. Sweet peas represent ‘delicate pleasures’; jasmine, ‘sensuality’ and ‘grace’; and the fabled forget-me-nots (a favorite of Harry’s mother) speak for themselves—yet for an added heart-tug, they also indicate ‘true love’.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes Connection is a powerful thing. Connection is one of my core values so I thrive when I connect.
I was telling my friend about the concert and she said, well if kindness is your message, how could you not reach ages 4 to 74.
Right? We are all connected.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes When a man doesn’t call you back for a date a second, third, or fourth date, that means something. It either means something has come up and he doesn’t have time, or he’s not interested. Not having time is not an excuse, it’s a fact. If either one of those two things is going on, it’s not happening. Let that be ok because you can’t control it anyway.
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Reading Time: 2 minutes I hear it all the time, “how did I miss the signs?” at the end of a relationship hindsight is 20/20. It’s not because you were stupid. It’s because falling in love causes temporary insanity, literally. So how’s a girl to know?
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Reading Time: 8 minutes On Mother’s Day, I put a post out on Facebook applauding mothers. It was an interesting post to me as it was a spur of the moment post. I mentioned how the Bible asks us to honor our mother and father, so our lives would be long. I was reflecting on why that is the only one of the ten commandments that has a “reward.” I waxed poetic about mothering and I also said sometimes, honoring our parents means keeping our distance if the relationship was abusive.
I was surprised at the attention this post got. I had several private messages in my inbox and several comments on the post that were quite negative. I was even asked to take down the post as it was the kind of thing that endorsed abusive behaviors from mothers to children and also promoted glorifying womanhood. Some of the comments also indicated that it was anti-feminist of me to glorify motherhood.
It turns out that this was a cultural issue! Yup! Culture! Not a blind spot but culture!
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