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Why I Don’t Say “Forever” to My Future Husband

Reading Time: 3 minutes Whenever I have the chance to take a quiet moment with my partner and just appreciate him – the curve of his shoulder, the color of his eyes, the utter satisfaction of his belly laugh – I take it. I take it knowing that it could never come again, and my only choice is to drink it in right fucking now. In that little moment, there’s no pressure to make us last, no worries about money or jobs or apartments, no forever. There is just him and me and this. And then he does something annoying and it’s gone, and boy am I glad I stood in the glorious present when I had the chance.

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I Want a Real Polyamorous Relationship With Some Roots and Depth & I Don’t Know Where to Start

Reading Time: 3 minutes There are many different models for polyamory, or “loving many” people. I’ve participated in a couple separate models of polyamory, or as I actually prefer to call it, non-monogamy. I don’t need to “love” or be in close relationship with the people that I socialize with sexually as a non-monogamous person.“Polyamory” makes me think that you do indeed what to build a life with more than one partner, and people do this quite successfully, but it’s not for everyone.

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Grown Woman’s Guide to Assholes

Reading Time: 4 minutes Nothing will rock the world of a nice girl faster than an asshole. A nice girl just can’t wrap her mind around the behavior of an asshole. The things that make a nice girl so vulnerable to an asshole are two of the things that make a nice girl nice – she’s understanding and patient.

But let’s tell the truth about the nice girl. When being nice is an honor badge for being a pushover you can’t blame the asshole. There is a big difference between a nice girl and a grown-up woman who loves hard.

And let me tell you from experience, there is no point trying to love or even like an asshole. So, here is your guide for managing yourself with an asshole – and for the record, this is not a guide to managing an asshole, because you can’t.

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An Open Letter to the Wife of My Lover

Reading Time: 3 minutes Yes, I have an advantage. He never sees me without my makeup because we have to make plans days in advance to see each other. I don’t have to ask him to take the garbage out because we don’t share a household. I do all of that myself. We don’t fight about money, because we don’t share any. The time I share with him is uncomplicated and unfettered by the daily complications of life because we don’t really share one. Occasionally, we share a bed, but sharing a bed is not the same.

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There is No Healing Without Love

Reading Time: 4 minutes Our body’s propensity is to heal. You may be doing everything you can to support your body and promote healing – keep doing the things that support you. I had a serious health crisis of my own, and although it was nearly two decades ago, I still vividly remember the frustration of doing everything I knew to do and not finding relief. It’s frustrating. Don’t give up. Infuse your self-care with LOVE.

You are made of Love, worthy of Love, capable of Love…there is so much Love for you in the world. Your heart, mind, soul, body, spirit are all parts of a beautiful miracle that is you.

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Five Things I learned from my Autistic Son

Reading Time: 7 minutes My son, Malcolm, was diagnosed with PDD-NOS when he was three. I remember learning, long before I gave motherhood even a glancing thought, that former CFL quarterback Doug Flutie had an autistic son, and wondering how he could possibly handle such a thing. Finding myself in the same position didn’t answer my question, since each autistic person is different. And yet, all parents of autistic children face the same choice: learn to raise your kid, or abdicate responsibility. The latter never crossed my mind.

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