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October 18, 2018 Cindie Chavez

Five Ideas to Help You Resolve a Conflict

Reading Time: 8 minutes When the multitude of conflicts playing out globally leaves me feeling helpless, I remind myself that I am not helpless to deal with conflicts that arise in my own life and relationships. Plus, I agree with the maxim “Be the change you want to see in the world.” – so learning some basic tools of the peacemaker has been part of my personal practice. If “Peace on Earth” begins with me then who knows what cascading effect conflict resolution in my own life could have in the world.

In the interest of making the world a more peaceful place, I’ve compiled five specific ideas that could be useful should you desire to resolve a conflict in your own life.

Informed

October 11, 2018 Cindie Chavez

Women Have Already Reached the Top

Reading Time: 7 minutes Although history books rarely record women’s achievements in anything near equal measure to men’s achievements, women HAVE achieved “it all”. We are doctors and lawyers and Supreme Court judges. We are world leaders. – Even though the United States failed to elect Hillary Clinton as our first woman President, there are plenty of countries that have NOT failed to put a woman in the top leadership position. We are scientists, fighter pilots, authors, psychologists, law enforcement officers, astronauts, teachers, professors, builders, race car drivers, actors, athletes, Olympians, musicians, entertainers, technicians, ministers, entrepreneurs – there isn’t a single field where women have not aspired to, and reached, “the top”.

However, what keeps nagging at me isn’t that we need more women “at the top” (although believe me, it has nagged me plenty) but that we need men to be more comfortable reaching down to what is perceived to be the bottom – the unpaid labor and necessary work that keeps the world turning day after day – the multitude of chores historically given to servants. These tasks are generally carried out by women, both physically and emotionally. The laundry load and the emotional load have predominantly been women’s burden to bear.

Evolve

October 4, 2018 Cindie Chavez

By the Light of the Moon

Reading Time: 5 minutes Each of the moon’s phases supports specific actions we can take to move towards our goals, helping us balance our health, relationships, spirituality, creativity, even our finances. For instance, the “dark moon days” just before the new moon are wonderfully supportive for self-care, pampering, and introspection. The new moon is a great time to start something new, to begin a course of learning, or launch a creative project. When the moon is full it’s a great time to socialize and celebrate.

Evolve

September 13, 2018 Cindie Chavez

This is the Single Most Important Commitment You Can Make

Reading Time: 5 minutes The measure of our commitment to our self is written all around us in our experience.

Are we taking the time to make sure our needs are met?

Do we spend time getting to know what those needs are?

Do we nurture our souls and recognize the things that bring us joy, peace, happiness?

Do we make the effort to contribute, to reach out and connect with others to find like minds, trusting companions and collaborators?

All these things are evidence of a committed relationship – with yourself. When your needs are met you experience wholeness. There is a saying that “two halves make a whole” – mathematically this may be true, but two people each experiencing wholeness are what makes a healthy couple, one that’s worth the commitment.

Evolve

September 6, 2018 Cindie Chavez

You Are Becoming Your Story

Reading Time: 4 minutes I hear stories every day about people surviving hard places. Once in a blue moon, I hear a story of someone even surviving being kidnapped. Good people, kind people, people who are strong, graceful, resourceful. People who have yet to discover the full spectrum of their own unique gifts, talents, and coping mechanisms. All sorts of people survive accidents, addictions, diseases, bankruptcy, divorce, loss of income, loss of loved ones, and all manner of devastating circumstances. It is easy to be amazed at the sheer tenacity of the human spirit that allows us to walk through a hard place and come out on the other side, triumphant. And yet, we don’t have to let these hard places define us.

Whatever “story” we are telling about ourselves will continually play itself out in our experience.

Evolve

August 23, 2018 Cindie Chavez

ARE YOU ASKING GOD FOR MORE MONEY?

Reading Time: 4 minutes If we need more money we might pray and ask God or Jesus to provide what we need. We might ask “The Universe” for financial help. Maybe we make offerings to Jupiter, or Lakshmi, Ganesha, or the Black Madonnas, or Papa Legba – or a myriad of other deities/entities/energies asking for their help in these weighty matters of money.

But this, to me, sounds like something that happens in relationships that aren’t so healthy. It’s called “triangulation” and it happens when we don’t have a direct connection to someone and we use an intermediary to do that relating and connecting for us. Remember in 7th grade when your friend had a crush on that other friend and wanted you to tell them since you knew them better?

Evolve

August 16, 2018 Cindie Chavez

KARMA, BABY

Reading Time: 3 minutes If you’re going to embrace the concept of Karma and Karmic Law, then you’ll have to be willing to understand that it plays out over lifetimes, over decades and even millennium. And every karmic debt gets paid, including yours and mine. We might not know exactly what incurred the debt, but it seems unwise to respond with an energy that will create more of the same.

Instead, why not focus on creating good Karma, the kind that heals the world. The word Karma literally means “action” and it refers to action driven by intention. And as Debasish Mridha so eloquently put it, “A glint of intention initiates the process of creation.”

Evolve

August 9, 2018 Cindie Chavez

ARE YOU MOVING TOWARDS YOUR DREAM?

Reading Time: 7 minutes The creation process starts with an idea, a wish, a hope or a dream. That dream needs to become a solid intention. There is a much-loved quote from Johann Wolfgang von Goeth that says “At the moment of commitment the entire universe conspires to assist you.” As wonderful and awe-inspiring as it is to imagine the entire power of the Universe conspiring on our behalf, “commitment” is the key concept here. It is our commitment that triggers the conspiracy of support by the magical powers that be, aka “The Universe”.

We may wish for many things, but this wishing faculty of ours is generally a commitment-phobe. It’s easy to see a beautiful thing, declare that “I wish I had one of those!” and then completely forget about it a few moments later. These fleeting wishful thoughts are not of the powerfully creative variety.