đ„ They Want You to Be SmallâSo Take Up Space Anyway. đ„
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By:Â Lisa M. Hayes
You Were Never Meant to Fit Inside Their Boxes.
The systems of powerâpatriarchy, capitalism, white supremacy, colonialismâare all designed for smallness.
- Â A woman who shrinks herself is easier to control.
- Â A worker who doesnât ask for more is easier to exploit.
- Â A person who doubts their worth will never challenge the status quo.
These systems are terrified of people who take up space — a person who takes up space will ask for what they need.
A person who takes up space will not apologize for their existence.
A person who takes up space will not be silenced.
And that? That is dangerous.
Which is exactly why you must become it.
Take Up Space Anyway.
Take up space in your bodyâwalk like the earth belongs to you because it does.
Take up space in your voiceâsay the thing that needs to be said, even when your voice shakes.
Take up space in your desiresâwant what you want, without apology or justification.
Take up space in your dreamsâbuild something so big they have no choice but to make room for it.
You were not put on this earth to be quiet, obedient, or small enough to disappear.
You were put here to be a force.
And every time you stand tall, speak loudly, demand more, refuse to shrinkâ
Every time you own your body, your voice, your joy, your rage, your brillianceâ
Every time you refuse to disappearâ
You remind them that their time is running out.
Smallness is a tool of oppression.
And your power?
Your power is in your expansion.
Build Something So Big, They Canât Ignore It.
They want you to be small because small people donât disrupt.
Small people donât demand better.
Small people donât shake the foundation of broken systems.
So what do you do?
 You disrupt.
 You demand.
 You build something so undeniable, so unstoppable, so fucking enormous that they have no choice but to reckon with it.
Because this world will not give you space.
You have to take it.
And when you do?
You make room for everyone else who has been told they are too much, too loud, too ambitious, too angry, too different, too anything.
So be too much.
Be impossible.
Be impossible to ignore.
Be a blueprint breaker, a world builder, a system disruptor, a fire-starter.
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Lisa Hayes is a life coach, writer, and editor of Confluence Daily, specializing in social issues, political issues, and mental health. Her work has appeared in publications like Huffington Post and Real Simple. She is also the Communications Director for a local fire department in Mexico and runs a life coach training program called The Coaching Guild.