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Month: May 2019

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You don’t have to wait to get your victim card punched to leave

Reading Time: 3 minutes He hasn’t cheated. He gets angry more often than seems reasonable but never gets violent. He goes to work, comes home, watches sports and mows the lawn on Saturdays. The fact that he’s indifferent to her presence, drinking a little or a lot too much in private, demanding or totally checked out in the bedroom, and developing a pretty consistent porn hobby/addiction seem minor compared to what getting divorced might mean. 

She’s in limbo, waiting for her hall pass, an excuse good enough to justify leaving, but it’s not coming. This is her purgatory and she wants to fix it. She wants to fix him. She’d do anything to fix herself because she can’t remember the last time she was happy for more than a few hours. 

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Podcast: A Conversation With Men About the Challenges of Masculinity – Part 1

Reading Time: 2 minutes Today, I’m sitting down with a room full of diverse men to talk about the challenges of masculinity. The reason I wanted to facilitate this discussion is to bring to light some of the points and perspectives on what it means to be a man in modern day, told by men. Everyone, regardless of how they present or identify, should have a vested interest in loosening the tight grip of patriarchal masculinity because it not only hurts women and LGBTQ people, but it hurts men, too.

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The Root: Meet Sydney Wilson, the 14-Year-Old Who Just Became the Youngest Student to Attend Spelman College

Reading Time: 2 minutes In addition to being named co-valedictorian while knocking out college-prep and AP classes, the honors graduate kept just as busy with extracurricular activities. She was the lead programmer for her school’s robotics team, served as president of the Rotary Club, ran track and her soccer team was nationally ranked.

However, humility is a key ingredient to her success. She was just as surprised and excited as anyone else when she found out where she’d be going to college, and her dad was the one to break the news.

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Burned out? Try this.

Reading Time: 6 minutes The last time I got burned out, it was pretty bad.  Bad enough that I realized I could no longer function the way I had been for so long.  The perfection I had been seeking was making me sick. And my body had been telling me this for a long time since my mind was hell-bent on not listening.  I had to go back to basics–I spent many hours in bed, switching back and forth between games on my iPhone and Netflix. And to be honest, this was exactly the therapy I needed.  When I was physically weak, my expectations of myself were low. I could kind of just exist. At ground zero, I was ok with just being human. I wasn’t fighting anymore, and I felt a freedom that I hadn’t in a long time.  Some might call this a spiritual awakening. To me, it was a total release. I had to let go of everything because I was mainly useless. And what I had been avoiding, been so afraid of, the big failure, felt really good.

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Am I Being Abused?

Reading Time: 4 minutes Generally speaking, the answer to the question is, you are being abused if you are afraid of your partner, physically, emotionally or in any other way. If you live in the state of trying to avoid conflict because you’d do anything to avoid the next confrontation, you are probably afraid.

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